Why Is It Impossible to Recover After A Death

By |April 22nd, 2016|

Why Is It Impossible to Recover After A Death? It’s impossible to recover after a death of a loved one because you don’t have the right information or the vehicle for doing it. You were given all the wrong information and you are trying to do something that is impossible with the vehicle and information [...]

Don’t Be Trapped, Pass Through Grief

By |April 15th, 2016|

Are you trapped in grief? I was trapped in grief. And I desperately wanted to pass through grief. It was two years after my husband had died. When he died I fully expected that in two years I would be moving on with my life. The two-year anniversary came and went and I felt as [...]

Loss, Memories and Grief

By |April 8th, 2016|

Early Memories in Grief The first year after my husband died, when I thought of him my heart ached a pain I had never known so great. My memories of Peter were only of those final years with him sick, in pain, desperate and dying, and those horrible memories consumed me. My memories while in [...]

Processing Grief Takes Courage

By |April 1st, 2016|

Processing grief takes COURAGE! It takes incredible courage. Do you know that many give up on the journey through grief? And many choose early on that they are meant to grieve forever. They sit down in it and make a home in grief.   Others start with hope that they will move through it. They give [...]

Fireweed and Loss and Grief

By |March 22nd, 2016|

Fireweed. Have you ever seen it? It’s beautiful. Here’s a photograph of it. I took this picture years ago when my husband and I vacationed in Alaska. I was so captivated by the beauty of the extensive purple fields of this flower. At the time I did not know the history of it and it’s [...]

You Deserve Joy While Grieving

By |March 21st, 2016|

Sunday early morning I was thinking about the day ahead of me and about what would bring me joy this day. I made a fire, got my cup of coffee and talked with friends while enjoying my fire. Sitting by my fireplace always brings me joy. As I sat by the fire I got thinking [...]

Grief is Like Fog

By |March 17th, 2016|

Driving this morning the fog was thick. I could hardly see 100 feet in front of me. Some other cars appeared to speed right by me. But I had to reduce my speed. I saw car tracks that had slid off the road. I had to proceed with caution. I felt my body tensing up. [...]

You Have Changed. Loss Causes Change.

By |March 11th, 2016|

You have changed. Yes, change has happened. Life is not as it was. The life you knew has ended. And you are changing as a result. Passing through grief takes change. I feel like I should say I am sorry. I am sorry for your loss. But I am not sorry for your change. Because [...]

Asking For HELP! I’m Grieving!

By |February 29th, 2016|

When we are grieving the death or loss of our husband or life partner, our friends may want to help, but they don't know how.  We then feel hurt and rejected right in our most vulnerable state.  It's tricky but we have to take little steps toward asking for what we need.  We need help [...]

Robbed of Security

By |February 24th, 2016|

Have you been robbed of security? Unexpected tragedies can rob us of our sense of security. When we experience a great loss, such as a divorce or a death of someone important to us, we can feel like we are no longer safe and secure.  Our sense of security and our whole "safe" world was [...]