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Grieving on the Fourth of July

By |July 7th, 2016|

It's Fourth of July weekend, which makes me think of Fireworks. When I see the bursting of magnificent colors high up above me in the sky I feel in awe of the beauty. I also am reminded of the years I could not see magnificent colors, beauty. After my husband died, I saw the world [...]

Words about Father’s Day, From My Eighteen Year Old Daughter

By |June 15th, 2016|

To most, Father’s Day is a day to celebrate their dad and show appreciation for his part in their life. From my experience, this is typically done through tacky (or not so tacky) Hallmark cards, barbeques, and some far-fetched gift only a dad could really need or want.  But for some, Father’s Day is just [...]

Opportunity Awaits

By |June 11th, 2016|

Open your mind. Put aside old beliefs with me for a moment. Opportunity awaits for you here. I was reading the book, The Power of the Mind to Heal, by Joan Borysenko, Ph.D and Miroslav Borysenko, Ph.D. A chapter, “Illness and Paradigm Shifts” (p.81-88) first caught my eye. I read on and I lit up. [...]

Graduation, Forgiveness, and Life After Loss

By |June 10th, 2016|

https://youtu.be/nGejt1hjcAY My twins are graduating from high school.  I'm so happy for them... and I've felt sad also. The sadness was that their school years were not perfect. After their dad died life was very difficult for all of us. This video is about forgiveness, and about our need to forgive ourselves and others if [...]

Does a Good Cry Help Us In Processing Grief

By |June 3rd, 2016|

When a loved one dies or leaves, we grieve. Sometimes we cry, sometimes we don't. Grief is our response to loss. We lose, we grieve. But what does grief look like? Does it look the same for all? Does death and loss and grief mean crying? Each individual is unique and every single relationship is [...]

Acting Recovered While You Grieve

By |May 26th, 2016|

Are you acting recovered while you grieve or have you actually recovered from your loss and grief? I live in quite an unusual town for 2015. Neighbors in our town know each other and reach out to help one another in need. So when my husband died initially there was an outpouring of help. Our [...]

Myth – Keeping Busy Helps You Recover After a Death

By |May 13th, 2016|

Are you "keeping busy” to try to get over the grief you feel since the death of someone you loved? Our body, heart and mind are affected by grief and loss such as death. All that advice from friends and family saying… “get busy,” “move on,” “try a hobby,” is wrong! Not helpful one bit! [...]

Time Does NOT Heal All Wounds, These Tips Do.

By |May 6th, 2016|

https://youtu.be/MhzbqVwuvtg

Take Deep Breaths When You Lose A Loved One

By |May 5th, 2016|

Deep breaths. Take a deep breath right now. Can you? When we lose a loved one we often can’t breathe deeply. I don’t know about you, but I felt like I would forget to breathe when I was in the throws of my deepest grief. Since I have had to get through grief, and now [...]

Grief Takes A Lot of Energy

By |April 29th, 2016|

Experiencing the death of a loved one takes a lot of energy. Energy builds in your body as you stress and stay in your head thinking and “hold yourself together” (as my grandmother used to say). When you act like you are fine and you really are not, and when you hold back your tears [...]