There Is A Road, No Simple Highway, for Grief

By |July 25th, 2016|

Do you think you are grieving wrong? Do you see others recovering more quickly than you? Do you believe you should feel better by now like them? You think that something is wrong with you? I did.  I was sure I was defective. I thought I would be done grieving in a year. I knew [...]

Grieving on the Fourth of July

By |July 7th, 2016|

It's Fourth of July weekend, which makes me think of Fireworks. When I see the bursting of magnificent colors high up above me in the sky I feel in awe of the beauty. I also am reminded of the years I could not see magnificent colors, beauty. After my husband died, I saw the world [...]

Being versus Doing After Loss and Change

By |June 17th, 2016|

https://youtu.be/aGKV7YVoxIA My twins graduated high school. So what now? Everyone is asking, so what are they doing now?  We are often so focussed on "doing" that we miss the important benefits of "being" for awhile. We are a culture that prides itself on keeping busy.  There is a great benefit in slowing down and being [...]

Words about Father’s Day, From My Eighteen Year Old Daughter

By |June 15th, 2016|

To most, Father’s Day is a day to celebrate their dad and show appreciation for his part in their life. From my experience, this is typically done through tacky (or not so tacky) Hallmark cards, barbeques, and some far-fetched gift only a dad could really need or want.  But for some, Father’s Day is just [...]

Opportunity Awaits

By |June 11th, 2016|

Open your mind. Put aside old beliefs with me for a moment. Opportunity awaits for you here. I was reading the book, The Power of the Mind to Heal, by Joan Borysenko, Ph.D and Miroslav Borysenko, Ph.D. A chapter, “Illness and Paradigm Shifts” (p.81-88) first caught my eye. I read on and I lit up. [...]

Graduation, Forgiveness, and Life After Loss

By |June 10th, 2016|

https://youtu.be/nGejt1hjcAY My twins are graduating from high school.  I'm so happy for them... and I've felt sad also. The sadness was that their school years were not perfect. After their dad died life was very difficult for all of us. This video is about forgiveness, and about our need to forgive ourselves and others if [...]

Does a Good Cry Help Us In Processing Grief

By |June 3rd, 2016|

When a loved one dies or leaves, we grieve. Sometimes we cry, sometimes we don't. Grief is our response to loss. We lose, we grieve. But what does grief look like? Does it look the same for all? Does death and loss and grief mean crying? Each individual is unique and every single relationship is [...]

Acting Recovered While You Grieve

By |May 26th, 2016|

Are you acting recovered while you grieve or have you actually recovered from your loss and grief? I live in quite an unusual town for 2015. Neighbors in our town know each other and reach out to help one another in need. So when my husband died initially there was an outpouring of help. Our [...]

Getting Over Grief Takes Moving Out of Your Comfort Zone

By |May 20th, 2016|

Getting over grief is one of the most difficult processes you will ever go through.  You lost the person who was there for you and now when you are most alone they aren't there for you. Grievers feel so alone. And family and friends think grieves want or need to be alone. The idea that [...]

Myth – Keeping Busy Helps You Recover After a Death

By |May 13th, 2016|

Are you "keeping busy” to try to get over the grief you feel since the death of someone you loved? Our body, heart and mind are affected by grief and loss such as death. All that advice from friends and family saying… “get busy,” “move on,” “try a hobby,” is wrong! Not helpful one bit! [...]